Generational Trauma Support

Bye Bye Shame™ is a free resource for adult children of critical parents to Say Goodbye to Inherited Shame. The hard thing about breaking up is you do not know how.

Many of us carry shame that doesn’t belong to us. It echoes in our inner critic, clings to the praise we can’t quite trust, and creeps into how we parent, love, and show up in the world.

If you grew up with critical parents, you might recognize the script: You’re too sensitive. Why can’t you be more like… Don’t be dramatic. Even if the words were subtle, the message was loud: You, as you are, weren’t quite enough.

That pain? It doesn’t end with childhood. It can quietly shape adulthood—how you speak to yourself, how you respond to your own children, how you handle success or make space for love. And the wild part? Sometimes it feels normal. Familiar. Even comforting.

This blog isn’t about blame. It’s not therapy. But it is a toolkit for awareness, change, and freedom. We’ll explore why your parents may have been critical (hint: they were probably shamed, too), how shame passes from one generation to the next, and, most importantly, how to cut the cord with it—on your terms.

Think of it as the healthiest breakup of your life. And as with any good goodbye, there’s something better waiting on the other side.

Healing Shame from Childhood

There is nothing wrong and everything right about talk therapy if it is working for you. Bye Bye Shame tools and inspiration can be a great complement to talk therapy as well!

Every thought you think can be a positive influence to chip away at the results of shame. You need skills—resources to reframe the shame, consider its source and let it GO!

This site and its offers are meant to be a resource the Bye Bye Shame community can use to gain perspective to recognize, process and release the shame they incur to reframe it and ultimately live a better feeling life!

Could anything be better than creating a life you love—we don’t think so!

Perfect Enough Mindset

With persistent practice, your inner dialogue can begin to shift. You will start celebrating your courage, your growth, and your real-life triumphs—no matter how subtle. The gap between your contributions and your self-worth shrinks because you come to realize you are Perfect Enough.

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